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Hope this posting finds you in the best of health, insyallah..
Saya ada dua soalan. Hope this is not too much. Take ur time to answer..
After so much of explanation over the topic mendoakan orang yang bukan islam, I remembered this incident among my relative abt 2 years ago.
Si anak lelaki memeluk ugama islam atas kerelaan hati sendiri. Selepas beberapa tahun kemudian berkahwin dan mempunyai keluarga sendiri.
2 tahun lepas siibu tua yg masih berugama hindu meninggal dunia. Jadi sianak lelaki ini menguruskan jenazah ibunye dari mula sampai cremation.
Selepas semua da selesai, si anak lelaki ini mandi bersih, bersembahyang dan bertaubat atas perbuatannye itu.
As a matter of knowledge, I wanted to know apa hukumnye si anak lelaki ini menguruskan jenazah ibunye yg bukan islam dgn upacan perkebumian hindu ini.
And of course sebagai anak (knowingly or not) tentu sekali ingin mendoakan ibunye yg telah meninggal dunia.
Seorang daripada sepupu saya telah bernikah dgn a chinese convert for many years.. Keluarga suami yg berugama budha tertarik dgn gaya hidup mereka dan mesra bersama ipar duai sedara-mara, esp parent and parent. However tak pernah pula megatakan hajat mereka yg ingin tahu tentang islam.
Suatu ketika kedua org tua ini sakit tenat. Beberapa bulan keluar masuk hospital. After so much of suffering si ibu pergi dahulu.
Suatu hari org tua lelaki berkata yg dia ingin bertemu dgn besannye iaitu my unlce. So bila my uncle menziarah, besannye mengatakan hajat ia utk memeluk ugama islam dalam keadaannye yg tenat itu.. So my uncle pun consulted beberapa org berkenaan dan suatu hari membisikan khalimah dua kali masyahadat ketelinga lelaki cina ini.. Walaubagaimana pun selepas meninggal, upacara perkebumiannye di lakukan secara budha.. Atas permintaan si mati, ia tidak mahu di bakar. Hanya di tanam aje.
Selepas kematian bapa itu, sekeluarga termasuk sepupu saya & anak2 nye pun pusing keliling keranda to pay their last respect kononnye .. Astrafirullah-hir-azim xxxx….
Tolong jelaskan kesimpulannye cerita saya ini.. in your own explanation and your best advise what should be done should we encounter this kind of situation in the future..
Thank you in advance Ustaz.
first both cases are now history to the ppl involved. if they have repented, then allah is most merciful.
there are many issues here.
1. first, here are some related links
a. general ruling on attending non-muslim’s funeral
b. offering condolences to non-muslims
c. delivering eulogy to non-muslims
2. In the first case, if there is no other person who can organize the funeral for the mother because he is the only son or family member, he is allowed to do the organizing part including cremation except participation in the rituals. See links below
See also last para in this link
But if there is other family member who can organize the funeral, it is best that he excuses himself from it. However, it is permitted for him to witness the funeral and all its processes without participating in the rituals.
3. in the second case, walking around the coffin as a show of last respect, if this involve any form of ritual or part of a religious ritual, it is not permissible. But if it is just walking around as we usually witnessed during state funeral, in my view, it is permissible because that is not a religious ritual. It is just a societal norm or universal state custom.
4. in the second case, we should see positively that the man at last indeed died as a muslim, instead of focusing on his unIslamic burial. Originally, if a Muslim died, it is obligatory that he is given a Muslim burial. The obligation is upon any member of Muslim community. However, this case is exceptional:
a. he was a muslim minutes before his death = he could not be possibly told the proper muslim burial or has no knowledge of the obligation. Allah will forgive him.
b. there is no documentary proof of his status = it is not possible for the relative to claim his body for muslim burial
Your uncle and his relatives has brought a person to the fold of islam at last minute of his life. That is a great deed that is not privileged to many of us. Allah will surely reward him handsomely. About his circumbulation around the coffin, see the above point 3. Even if they were erred, may Allah forgive them, that should not close our eyes from acknowledging the good deed i.e conversion that they have done.